Do you wonder why academic books seems difficult to read?
“If you don’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well…!” Einstein The rule of the mind when you don’t understand anything you surrender your mind surrender to that authority. When we use that heavy vocabulary our mind has to work really hard to understand and make sense of it and at the same time our mind make believe that the person or book I am reading using that strong vocabulary is very difficult so your simple mind just give up because it doesn’t understand ! Do you wonder why academic books seems difficult to read though the same concept in leisure reading we all enjoy because understanding is power we can utilise that knowledge according to our state of mind. I really enjoy authors who write simply and don’t make complex writing so a lay men can understand knowledge and messages the authors wants to share. It reminded me of a incident, where I was already struggling with low self esteem, bullying and rejection. It was a group tour to a newly build International level hospital and university and the person who was giving us that tour was foreigner (I was in Pakistan at that time) excited to learn more I asked him a question and he answered very politely though my grammar was not up to the mark! Well well but a close person made sure that I spoke wrong English and everybody should know plus a instruction that don’t ask you speak wrong English! I was in my teens. You are already struggling with the self-esteem when you’re in your teens and instructions like that and humiliation like that actually makes you feel that yes that’s the truth that’s a fact about me that I cannot communicate in English language.Fast forward after some years on my healing path I met so many beautiful people who encourages me to write and they never saw my grammatical mistakes in fact they always encourage me that what I have to say should be in a written form as well so we can always go back to it and so I started writing and I feel that yes I am a very simple communicator I explain things very simply I don’t use heavy vocabulary and I got complimented by native speakers most of the time that though English is your second language but you communicate your ideas so simply and it’s so impactful so when I saw Einstein said that if you cant explain things simply that mean you did not even understand that and it means a lot to me. I try to make people understand the concept that seems difficult but it is not if it’s made simple. Myself Ameenah Thobani, I am a certified Hypnotherapist with a Speciality in Past Life Regression. With 20 years of experience, I am a veteran in the fields of Mind Science and Spiritual Coaching. My goal is to help you break free from the negative cycles that are preventing you from living your highest purpose.
The Core Belief and the Shift!
“Recently, results of the Human Genome Project have shattered one of Science’s fundamental core beliefs, the concept of genetic determinism. We have been led to believe that our genes determine the character of our lives, yet new research surprisingly reveals that it is the character of our lives that controls our genes. Rather than being victims of our heredity, we are actually masters of our genome.”Bruce Lipton My adopted mom died in 2005 I was very close to her infact only adult in my life to whom I confide from an early age, when I lost her psoriasis first came to my life and it triggered my core belief of not being safe… Psoriasis seems like a skin problem but it is a disorder of the immune system. It causes white blood cells to become overactive and produce chemicals that trigger inflammation in the skin. When I felt unsafe my brain sent the message to the centres that it’s a matter of life and death, emergency situation activated and in this case my immune system became overactive to deal with any situation (army is always ready and in chaos attacking it’s own healthy soldiers because it seems like invasion, it’s the response of over active amygdala that’s constantly fighting!) Mind’s no. 1 job is to keep you alive, if at any moment mind (part of brain that scans And weigh the danger ⛔️ sent information to the command Center ) thinks by scanning environment you are not safe the emergency situation activated now you are in emergency situation because mind thinks it will be forever until we change how we feel and change our core belief about being safe. Mind interpret through meaning attached to some unpleasant or perceived unpleasant event that happened early in life and the meaning it attached become your one infinite law book or only reference book. You see everything from that perception good or bad, safe or not safe. Triggers are the sign that somethings needs attention reaching to the core belief and rewrite it according to your present state of mind,makes your mind understands and once understood it releases the the stagnant energy and you ll experience that aha moments. We all can do our own healing, sitting with self in stillness is the key to reach to those core beliefs that’s stopping us from becoming a magnificent beings❤️ Some ways we can initiate self healing! Writing a journal, about presenting issue and assessing a triggered feelings. Sitting in meditation with an intention of healing. Observe thoughts Interrupt the thought patterns Think what you want to achieve by doing this exercise. Myself Ameenah Thobani, I am a certified Hypnotherapist with a Speciality in Past Life Regression. With 20 years of experience, I am a veteran in the fields of Mind Science and Spiritual Coaching. My goal is to help you break free from the negative cycles that are preventing you from living your highest purpose.
People with childhood trauma—perfectionism!
Sounds familiar right! Constantly driven to do more better, to get the best and never feel satisfied in life with relationships, accomplishments always feels there is more to it and that absence of feeling content creates anxious feelings. I want everything in control, uncertainty is scary and creates anxiety to control everything. It’s that constant tension that keeps people trapped and unable to go with the flow, surrender or let go. For me, I never knew I was so wound up all the time until I spontaneously regressed to my past life and found myself into the unknown. It was scary but feeling of curiosity was there too. That led me to figure out my messy, overly controlled life. I decided to step in to that unfamiliar place and that decision opened a Pandora’s box. I am so proud of myself for taking that journey towards Liberation. Perfectionism is one way our wounded inner child shows up! As perfectionists, people can often live in their heads, worried and constantly trying to control every aspect of them selves and their lives. They believe they need to go above and beyond all the time to be accepted, embraced, loved and happy. They think they need to take extreme measures to be valued, be seen and heard. But this way of living robs them of truly living, the power of the present, and their most authentic life. But, most importantly, it robs them the most important aspect of loving them selves and acceptance and the dilemma is disconnection with their trueself they are not connected to them selves and don’t know who they are because of childhood trauma they were unable to build the connection with them selves. Let’s explore how to overcome and look in to the resources that can help discord the the urge to be perfect to be accepted and and be in a flow with life. It’s a healing journey needs perseverance journey. No one sees us the way we do to ourselves. People who judge you needs healing too so it’s not about you. With my critical view point of my self it took me a long time to accept my beautiful body it was everyday’s disappointment to strive for perfectionism it was never even close to the expectations I was trying to achieve so hard it was not even mine but as a wounded child I was also judging myself from that lens that standard box from other people’s point of view about beauty and size. Slowly, I unraveled the messiness of perfectionism, falling more times than I could count. I still fall today, but getting up is much quicker and filled with a lot more kindness than before. As each layer comes off, trauma always comes in layers and so does healing a new sense of freedom sets in. This is the journey of healing—a process, a discovery, a continuous renewal. With support it speeds up little bit but actual work is our own responsibility. Ways to overcome perfectionism and heal our inner child. Self-esteem and confidence. With low self-esteem and confidence, people always look for validation from outside. That’s the only way people with low self esteem feel valued . Building self-esteem helps to make better decisions, feel at ease with self and choose their own path with confidence without worry “what if I fail”. Trauma disconnects ourself from our authentic self , how we think about ourself and for that we have to rely on others to approve us. Increasing self-esteem, and recovery is to enhance self-confidence which helps to reduce feeling of anxiety too. In my experience I have seen people with anxiety has very low or no self esteem and confidence everyday is a struggle for them. A healthy natural way to boost our self esteem is connecting to self by doing some meditation, praising self, exercise and movement. Depression, trauma, and stress can be linked to lost connection with our self. Being Creative help balance our mood and regulate our wellbeing. Have you ever seen how animals shed stress by shaking, Shaking is one way that is the default way of shedding stress. Shaking helps us shake off nervous energy and centre ourselves. As perfectionists,Tendency of people pleasing or anxiety around disappointing people keeps people in stress 24/7Learning to tune into your bodies , when body is safe mind is not anxious , grounding helps people to disengage from trends, pressure , society’s idea of perfection and instead believing in self that opens new doors of opportunity and wellness. Don’t let the stress build up. As perfectionists, people can be extremely good at working under pressure and in stressful situations.They are good at procrastinating and then at the last minute, pulling through. Sometimes this works well, and other times it doesn’t. But working under pressure like this can result in a buildup of stress on the body and mind. If you haven’t taken the time to release the stress regularly, it accumulates, putting people at risk of chronic illness, anxiety and much more. If you don’t balance your life with enjoyable activities, what you love , you are passionate about and don’t give time to process and release that build up. You become like a pressure cooker that explodes without adequate venting. We need release valves in our life—space to breathe, let loose, and shake off the stress. A quick fix may seem like a good idea, but it is sane just like treating the symptoms not working or understanding the core issue and beliefs that usually in perfectionism is I am not enough. If you don’t go to the root cause of presenting issue it often left feeling the same way. Until it is resolved with the help of conscious and subconscious mind. Awareness is empowering. When you are aware you understand yourself and behaviours that helps you to acquire balance in how you respond to situations in your lives. Ramped-up emotions like worry, fear, doubt, rejection and anxiety can
